Author John Nitti

What Would Dad Say?

What Would Dad Say? provides motivation and advice supported by stories relating to family, friendship, love, marriage, athletics, education, health, fitness, career planning, money, religion and death. Rules of life were developed by author, John Nitti, based on years of experience in a multitude of settings from growing up in a diverse town on Long Island to Yale University. His background also includes time in the NFL and on Wall Street. He utilized his knowledge and experience to raise four successful children with his wife, Pat, and is now sharing that in this book.

Lessons learned from college professors to high-powered business executives, from well-known sports figures and team owners to entertainers, from ancient Greek philosophers to political leaders and from the very rich to the homeless are all shared. Evidence relating to everything from formulas for success to avoiding the pitfalls associated with regrettable failures provide helpful, practical examples. Life experiences and crossroads are shared in order to help others optimize their success and happiness.

The original target audience was solely John’s four children; he wanted them to understand his outlook on life and some keys to success and happiness just in case anything happened to him. His thoughts of mortality were reinforced after the death of a friend and then crystalized when his brother-in-law, firefighter Brian McAleese, died in the World Trade Center during the terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001. As Father Mychal Judge (the New York City Firefighters’ chaplain who died when the World Trade Center collapsed) said right before the attack, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him what you’re going to do tomorrow.”

While many of the rules are based on proven experiences, scientific evidence or specific facts are not provided in detail. There is plenty of research material that can always be referenced. There are also many books that are dedicated entirely to almost every subject that is addressed in only a single rule within these pages. But, What Would Day Say? is purposely simple and broad in order to cover a wide range of subjects and be memorable. It captures thoughts in the same way that one would be forced to answer on the spur of the moment, delivered in a casual conversational style.

One may lead a good life by following these simple rules. Some of the rules are obvious, but we all need to be reminded. Others are more intuitive. Still others would perhaps cause quite a debate regarding their validity. But they have worked. And just as children listen to some guidance and disregard the rest, so will anyone who reads this book adhere only to some of these rules and forget the others. For in the end, it’s their choice and their life. We can’t tell people what to do, but we can help them learn from experience and foresee the consequences of their actions. It is hoped What Would Dad Say? will provide that for you.

Preview of the Rules in the Book

Here are just a few rules that are found inside of the book.

Want a rule? Here’s one…

TAKE ACTION OVER INACTION meaning if you're undecided on whether or not to do something or go somewhere do it or go!

YOU’VE GOT TO GET DOWN BEFORE YOU GET HIGH from the Yoruba Tribe in West Africa.  Meaning you need to suffer through the bad before you can truly appreciate the good (or success)

IF YOU DON’T THINK YOU CAN, YOU WON’T meaning that confidence is the most important determinant of success

LIVE FOR TODAY meaning live in the present vs. longing for the past or fretting about the future

HE WHO HAS MUCH, MUCH IS EXPECTED meaning those who are successful and have influence should use that to benefit society

SOMEDAY YOU WILL BE FAMILY - watch how the person you may marry treats their family; eventually that's how they will treat you

SOW YOUR WILD OATS BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED meaning don't marry the first person you date.  Experience the full benefits of being single etc. first
TRY HARD AND HAVE FUN - winning at all costs doesn't make sense, but trying to win and having fun is what athletics are all about
DON’T BE AFRAID TO MAKE A MISTAKE or as Wayne Gretzky said, "I missed 100% of the shots I didn't take".  Leave it all out there and don't worry about mistakes
PLAY HARD, WORK HARD (AND SLEEP HARD) - you need balance
GET ADMITTED TO YOUR COLLEGE OF CHOICE - again read the book to see how to do this
WITHOUT YOUR HEALTH YOU HAVE NOTHING - just ask deceased billionaire, Steve Jobs

YOU’VE GOT TO GET DOWN BEFORE YOU GET HIGH from the Yoruba Tribe in West Africa.  Meaning you need to suffer through the bad before you can truly appreciate the good (or success)

DO WHAT YOU LOVE, AND YOU WILL NEVER WORK A DAY IN YOUR LIFE - it's hard to work 50-60 hours a week if you don't like it
FOLLOW EVERY RAINBOW TILL YOU FIND YOUR DREAM - pursue even if you need to start at the very bottom
THE TRIANGLE AND FUNNEL THEORIES - read the book!
LUCK IS WHERE PREPARATION MEETS OPPORTUNITY (AGAIN) - be prepared in order to succeed
PEOPLE BUY FROM PEOPLE THEY TRUST - not the old adage from people they like.  But they must like you in order to spend time with you and learn to trust you
LIVE EACH DAY AS IF IT WERE YOUR LAST - not as straightforward as it sounds - read the book!
UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU’RE WILLING TO DIE FOR - only then will you know what matters most to you
THERE IS A GOD, BUT HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOUR BIG GAME - so please don't think he chose you over your opponent and thank him for that.
RELIGION IS NOT JUST ON SUNDAYS - it's much more important to live honorably than attend services
THE MAN IN THE GLASS - no one knows you better than yourself.  You're the one that should be satisfied with yourself not the ones who don't know you.  
THE HIGHER YOU GO UP THE LADDER, THE MORE YOUR BUTT IS EXPOSED - culminating with the President a country, whom have the population hates. When you’re on top, jealously prevails and you will need thick skin to withstand criticism.  So again, it's the man (person) in the glass that matters.
LIST YOUR TOP 10 LIFE MOMENTS - that will tell you what's most important to you
"The best and most beautiful things in the world can not been seen nor touched, but are felt in the heart "-Helen Keller..  Possessions or wealth don't matter.  Time and distance don't matter as much as what you feel in your heart.

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